It’s natural to have moments of regret or to wonder “what if” about certain things in life, but when these thoughts become a constant presence, they can be detrimental to our well-being.
Fantasizing about “what if” scenarios can lead to feelings of anxiety, frustration, and disappointment, and it can prevent us from fully enjoying and appreciating the good things we have in our lives right now.
In fact, I have been living in this “What If” scenario for years, and it has been toxic and draining on my mental health. It also impacted my current relationship, as I grew toxic and spilled ill wishes while imagining what could have been.
Since the Year 2020, I have been able to let go of “What If’s” and honestly, my perception of life has improved.
One way to stop fantasizing about “what ifs” is to practice gratitude and focus on the good things we have in our lives. When we focus on the things we’re grateful for, it can help to shift our perspective and bring us back to the present moment.
Here are a few tips I did in cultivating gratitude:
Keep a gratitude journal
Write down three things you’re grateful for each day. These can be big or small things – anything that brings you joy or makes your life better.
Pay attention to the present moment and focus on your senses and surroundings. This can help you appreciate the small, everyday moments and find joy in the present.
Share your gratitude with others
Share your gratitude with friends, family, or a support group. Expressing gratitude can help to strengthen relationships and bring joy to both you and the person you’re sharing with.
Find ways to express gratitude in your daily life
Practice small acts of kindness and appreciation towards others, or find ways to show gratitude for the things you have in your life, such as by taking care of your possessions or expressing appreciation to those who have helped you.
It’s important to remember that it’s okay to have moments of “what if” thinking – it’s a natural part of being human. However, it’s important to recognize when these thoughts are becoming a negative influence on our well-being and to take steps to shift our focus back to the present and the good things we have in our lives. By practicing gratitude and finding ways to enjoy and appreciate the good things we have right now, we can break the cycle of “what if” thinking and find more joy and fulfillment in life.